Tony Robbins, Polyamory, and a Dive Motel

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In July of 2017, I walked on fire with Tony Robbins.

This was the summer before I got sober.

I was living in Costa Rica, working full-time as the executive chef at a retreat center that shall not be named. I had left my husband 2 months earlier. I was deep in personal development. Reading everything. Taking every course. Including, yes, a self-breast massage erotic embodiment course. That’s a story for another day.

I flew to New Jersey with a friend from work. Two chicks who were absolutely fish out of water.

There were no hotels near the venue, so we ended up in a dive motel with exposed wiring and a real stench...

I came down with a brutal cold. I probably should have stayed in bed. Instead, I joined nearly 20,000 people chanting in unison in what can only be described as a hypnotic stadium of adrenaline.

And then we walked on fiery coals.

I was completely out of my element.

And I thrived.

That weekend cracked something open in me. It was the beginning of a massive expansion. Within a few months I got sober. The years that followed were some of the most transformative of my life.

But here’s the part people don’t talk about.

When you blow open your edges like that, when you expand that fast, when you feel that free, you don’t always know how to contain it.

Shortly after, I went a little manic. I jumped out of an airplane. I entered into a polyamorous relationship. I was high on life. So high that a friend once asked me if I had started doing cocaine after quitting alcohol.

I hadn’t.

I just didn’t know how to manage my joy.

And this is the tie-in.

Becoming a breathwork facilitator, yoga teacher, or somatic practitioner can feel a lot like walking on fire. You’re given the tools. The methodology. The initiation. You cross the threshold. You feel powerful. Free. Expanded.

But then what?

No one teaches you how to hold that expansion.

You’re trained how to facilitate. Not how to build the container around your work.

You’re shown how to guide people through altered states. Not how to set up booking systems. Or write ethical messaging. Or create offers that match your nervous system. Or manage money. Or build something sustainable.

So what happens?

You either contract.Or you expand in every direction at once and burn yourself out.

Just like I did in my own way.

Walking on fire was powerful. But the real growth came in learning how to integrate the experience. How to build a life that could hold that level of expansion.

It’s the same in business.

Certification is the ignition. Structure is the integration.

And without integration, even the most powerful experience can destabilize you.

That’s the gap I see. And that’s the gap I’m now building for...read on!

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You got certified. Now what?

In this episode, I break down the biggest gap in breathwork (and yoga/somatic) trainings - the business side. We’re talking identity, offers, ethical messaging, marketing that isn’t hustle-driven, and the simple backend systems that actually make your work sustainable.

If you’re a facilitator who wants to be incredible at your craft and build something stable, grounded, and legit — this one’s for you.

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